How often do we lose ourselves in a relationship, our career, and even in motherhood? We forget the things we did before that we really gave us joy & fulfillment. The funny part is we even get to the point where we are talking about these activities in past tense.
Then one day you decide to reclaim your life. You decide to start doing the things that you once did that made you happy. It doesn’t really happen that quickly, but we can only dream that the change happens that easily. We do know that in order to reclaim your life you have to be committed to doing so. You need to make that commitment to yourself and hold yourself accountable.
Reclaiming YOUR Life includes YOUR Peace, Creativity, Relationships, Finances, and Faith.
How Do You Start To Reclaim YOUR Life
Social Media – Let’s just start with social media. It’s important to unplug from your devices every now and then. We live in a day where access to our smart phones, tablets and laptops is practically 24/7. At any given moment we have the luxury of hopping online or opening our email, and while that’s a blessing, it can also be a curse. There’s nothing wrong with using our devices, but it’s problematic when we become addicted to checking in—and start to abuse the privilege. It’s crucial we prioritize those we love over our devices every day of the week.
Declutter – Over the years we accumulate so many things such as heartache, disappointment, failure, people…we fill our lives with so much mental strain. In order to reclaim your life you have to be willing to release all of that internal pain.
Stop beating yourself up – Decide to be an observer in your life instead of judging yourself so harshly. Instead of emphasizing on the things you have done wrong, focus on the good decisions you’ve made in your life. Also, be grateful for the freedom you find from being accountable for what you bring into your life. Start finding healthy ways of doing better and be ok with rewarding yourself.
Change the conversation – It’s tempting to sit and rehash the same stories over and over, but our words become our mantra, and saying how unhappy, broken or miserable you are only reinforce your sense of helplessness. Try using more positive and powerful words, and you’ll find that you not only feel better, but the world will respond to you differently.
Surround yourself with positive people – It’s a proven fact the misery loves company. But ask yourself, do you want to spend the rest of your life hanging out with people who only reinforce the idea that you’re a victim with no personal power? That answer should be no. You want to surround yourself with people who have a “can-do” attitude toward adversity and you’ll likely not only feel motivated, but learn very practical ways to make adjustments in your own life.
Say out loud the things you are grateful for – Take some time every morning to say (aloud) three things you are grateful for and then commit to letting someone in your life know what you appreciate about them every day. Gratitude makes us feel abundant and joyful, which makes it much harder to obsess about what we don’t have.
Final Thoughts There are several steps you can take in order to start to reclaim your life. I didn’t want to overload you with all of them because it’s important for you not to feel overwhelmed in this process. The base for everything that you do should be love. When you love yourself and put yourself first, you allow the process to start in reclaiming your life.